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What time should the Ceremony commence?

Weddings | July 19, 2013 | 7:24 am

How many of us like to be kept waiting?  I’ve never met anyone who did.

It has become fashionable lately to state on wedding invitations a start time, which is actually considerably different to the actual start time.  On the face of it, it sounds like a good idea; after all, we don’t all have good time-keeping skills and if guests have arrived in advance of the ceremony time then they won’t miss the ceremony, or will they?  Perhaps they were intending to miss the ceremony anyway and just turn up at the reception?

In my experience it’s not unusual to find guests arriving at the ceremony venue one hour prior to the stated start time on the wedding invitation. I guess the point I’m making is that if you really want to be there, then it’s highly unlikely you’ll arrive late.  After you’ve attended a few ceremonies where you find the groom has almost chewed off his fingers waiting for his bride to arrive.  Or where guests have begun melting in the hot afternoon sun and children who start whining to their parents because their attention spans have almost well and truly been exhausted; it’s time to question the correctness of this trend.…

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You’re never too old

Weddings | May 27, 2013 | 7:23 am

Blog entry supplied by Robbie Fincham, Melbourne Civil Marriage Celebrant

Later this year I will be marrying a delightful couple who were both born in 1943 which makes them 70 years of age.   This really is wonderful, and testament to the adage that “it’s never too late for love and marriage”.  Marrying later in life is by no means the “norm” in Australia, but makes me wonder if it will become more common, in light of a report released today, 27th May 2013, by the Australian Institute of Family Studies.

Essentially the report saysthat there is growing evidence that more couples are delaying divorce until after 20 years of marriage.  This delay may be because they are waiting until their children reach adulthood.

Therefore, it makes sense that if couples are delaying divorce, then they may also meet and marry a new partner much later in life.…

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“You Can’t Hurry Love” – A very special love story

Weddings | April 14, 2013 | 7:22 am

Article written by Robbie Fincham, Melbourne Civil Celebrant

The song “You Can’t Hurry Love” by The Supremes was the finale music played at Suzi and Evan’s Commitment Ceremony, I had the very great privilege of conducting in January 2013.  What a fitting song it was too, as you will understand when you read about this most remarkable love story, which has spanned more than 35 years!!

Suzi and Evan initially met in Melbourne, in their late 20’s, in 1977.  Between them they were raising 3 children and the individual challenges in their lives at that time caused their separation after 2 years together.  Evan moved to Adelaide and Suzi remained in Melbourne.  During the next 33 years they often found themselves dreaming about each other.  Both very much regretted their breakup, but life went on and each moved on with new partners.

In 2011, Suzi decided she was tired of putting up with her chronic dreaming, suffering and denial and determined she just had to see Evan at least one more time before one of them died.  So, she set about finding Evan and many phone calls later and with the assistance of her detective brother, tracked Evan down.…

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What exactly is a Ring Warming Ceremony?

Weddings | April 12, 2013 | 7:21 am

Article written by Robbie Fincham, Melbourne Civil Celebrant

Most couples marrying in Australia exchange rings during their wedding ceremony.  Another lovely sub-ceremony to include, as a leadup to this time honoured tradition, which is gaining popularity these days, is the Ring Warming Ceremony.  The “warming of the rings” which it’s also called is a lovely way to also involve wedding guests.  So what happens during a ring warming?

Before the couple exchange rings the celebrant announces that the rings will be passed around and in turn each guest should take the rings, place their hand over them for just a few moments and “warm” them with their love and best wishes for the couple for a healthy, happy and joyful life together.  If there are many guests it’s a good idea for the celebrant to start this process early on in the ceremony so there is plenty of time for the rings to reach everyone.   When the rings return the celebrant will say a few words about how the rings have now been blessed and filled with the love and hope of all their family and friends present.…

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Family Blending Ceremony at the Oldest Operating Boathouse in Victoria

Weddings | December 2, 2012 | 7:19 am

On a beautifully sunny spring afternoon in Melbourne in October this year I had the pleasure of conducting the marriage between Emiko and Peter, incorporating a family blending ceremony.  Family and friends gathered on the banks of the Yarra River in Kew where the oldest operating boathouse in Victoria stands – the Studley Park Boathouse.  Being only a 10 minute drive from central Melbourne, you could be mistaken from thinking you were somewhere in the country, so natural is the setting with picturesque views of the Yarra River and the perfect setting for their ceremony.

Emiko was given away by her Father, who had flown in from Japan for the special occasion.

Their ceremony acknowledged and celebrated not only the creation of a marriage, but also affirmation of the family union.  Emiko and Peter presented each of the children with a commemorative gift to celebrate the special day.  At the conclusion of the ceremony, on behalf of their parents, I also presented each of the children with an Appreciation Certificate  acknowledging their contribution to the special event.

It’s always tremendously satisfying to receive positive comments following a ceremony, and the following week I received this email from the bride (which had been sent to her from her Father’s friend, who had also attended their ceremony).…

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